I’m listening to very old songs from the 40s, 50s and 60s trying to relive those weekend mornings when I would wake up to the sight of my dad cutting grass outside our house, with huge shears while listening to Andy Williams, Paul Anka, Frank Sinatra, Matt Monro, as my mom busily buzzes in the kitchen after buffing the floor with her trusty lampaso and cleaning all nooks and crannies.Â
The Righteous Brothers are just starting on the first lines of Unchained Melody when my 13-year old daughter burst into my room, eyebrows stitched together, her face an amused question mark.
“What on earth are you listening to, Mum?”
“Old songs!” I smile and say.Â
“Ya. VERY, VERY old songs! You’re old.” She declares teasingly.
“Forty years from now, your Harry Stiles, Britney Spears and Justin Bieber would all be gone and I’d still be listening to these songs.”
She then rolls her eyes and goes back to her room and her One Direction playlist.
Two seconds later, my 10-year old son jumps onto my bed and asks, face looking as if he just saw me swallow a live lizard,
“Mommy! Why are you listening to that song?”
“Because I grew up listening to these songs and I miss your Dada (their grandpa).” Sheesh! Why are my kids making such a big deal out of my music?
“Blechh! Your songs are ANCIENT.” He says.
This brief exchange with my kids is a copy and paste of my usual harmless early weekend morning spats with my Dad eons ago when he would drag me and my siblings out of bed by playing his marathon of Oldies songs on full blast you’d hear it even if you’re a kilometer away.Â
I feel a little sad for my kids. They would never get to have the kind of childhood I had had and do those fun, simple silly kid stuff we used to do. To them, what they have now, may be what they would think in 50 years as an awesome childhood. But come on, nothing beats weekends spent playing tumba lata, shatong, tagu-anay, climbing trees and being chased by the neighbour’s dogs.
I wish my kids could play and run in the rain with the other kids in the neighbourhood, chasing cats or hunting spiders until sundown. But MineCraft and other video games will keep them from doing that.Â
I wish my kids could play bahay-bahayan using banana leaves for roofs and empty rice sacks for floors, and cook gulay made of grass leaves, tree barks, shoots and all sorts of seeds all mixed into one big empty Milo tin can. But they have Farmville, CafeWorld and Cityville for that. And where in this first world suburb that we live in could we ever get those banana leaves or coconut leaves that I and my playmates would carefully interlace together to create nice walls and roofs for our playhouse?
I wish my kids could hear those crickets and those weird insect and animal noises that used to scare me to sleep at night in the province. But they always have their headphones on.
I wish my kids could hear those scary stories that my Dad and uncles used to tell us children on those nights when electricity was just a luxury few people enjoy. Â Stories of “tikbalangs,” “aswangs,” “sigbins,” and other supernatural beings that lurk in the night were what we looked forward to. But I can tell they enjoy the Twilight series or the Transformers better.
I wish they could hear the ‘wisdom’ of our old folks when they wanted us to do or not do something or when we used to ask them questions about things we didn’t understand.
“Never eat conjoined banana’s or else you will give birth to conjoined twins when you grow up.”
You can never make me eat conjoined bananas UNTIL NOW.
“When a stranger taps you on the back, they are likely a cursed witch passing on the curse to you so you need to tap them back to pass the curse back to them.”
I once came home all freaked out and in tears because someone tapped me on the back (mistaken identity apparently) and I wasn’t able to tap him back. I was sure then I was going to be a witch at full moon. I was twelve then.
“Don’t take a shower after drinking hot cocoa (sikwate) because hot cocoa “has a different kind of hot” that will make your stomach explode if you take a shower right after drinking it. And then you’d die.”
I once had a mug of hot sikwate that my Nanay Dadang (my father’s brother’s wife) made me drink and on my way home, it rained heavily and I was so drenched that my Mom made me take a shower. After taking a shower, I ran up to my room, locked the door and knelt down by the bed and prayed like I never prayed before, “Please God, don’t let me die. I don’t want to die! I promise I will not drink sikwate then take a shower anymore!” I was praying in tears and very sure that I was going to die.
My kids never knew any of these “nuggets of wisdom.” 🙂 I give them scientific facts as much I can. Or if I didn’t know the answer to their question, I tell them to “google it.”
I’m now into the second hour of my Oldies playlist. It’s a beautiful weekend. I hope my kids would also have really good memories of their childhood weekends as much as I do, however different they may spend them from the way I did years and years ago.
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